I like to demystify what counselling/therapy is about, as many people feel intimidated by it. The way I frame it is as “helpful conversations.” These conversations can have an important impact on a person’s life, as they can drastically improve a person’s sense of well-being and relationships, and lead to a happier life.
Freer than You Think
Often the first sessions of counselling are about gaining a good understanding of the problem or problems a person struggles with. The experience of feeling heard in a non-judging/supportive environment can of itself be very therapeutic and healing.
Throughout the following process of therapy, what goes on is an exploration of all that has fed the problems in a person’s life. Drawing from the narrative approach, I take the view that people are not their problems.
Rather, problems are external entities with which a person has a relationship. This relationship is explored as well as ways to keep the problem at bay, or better, ways to break free of it.
The realization that problems are separate from one’s identity can be extremely freeing, as well as empowering. Suddenly one is not “depressed”, but rather has had a relationship with depression. To reflect this stand, the questioning is not about ”How long have you been depressed?” which can lead to feeling quite defeated, but rather about “When did depression appear in your life?”
Unhealthy/unhelpful ways of thinking/feeling and of behaving are explored and room is created to explore more helpful ones. Throughout this process, an opportunity for change, personal growth and important insights opens up.
More at Home with Yourself
It is a sad reflection on our way of life that many of us often become our own worst enemies, harbouring very negative and critical views of ourselves. Being able to develop/cultivate a more compassionate understanding of one’s self fosters a sense of inner connection and can greatly alleviate feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Interestingly, when feeling more connected to one’s self, one starts feeling also more connected to others.
Only as Sick as Our Secrets
Indeed being genuine/authentic is a guiding principle in my life, both in my personal and in my professional life. What this means is that there is nothing that I suggest to my clients that I do not try to practice in my own life as well.
This has made my work very meaningful. I am also dedicated to a compassionate non-judging attitude that helps create a safe, warm and supportive environment. I have deep respect for all the individuals/human beings who take the brave step to seek therapy to try and address their problems and treat this human encounter as something very special, almost sacred.
If you feel that you would like to start engaging in counselling, give me a call. If you feel that you would like more information before making a decision, do not hesitate to contact me as well.
All services are private and confidential.
If you would like some information about the mindfulness programs/workshops I teach in the community, please feel free to contact me.